My motto, ever since becoming a parent, has always been, “If you don’t like my son, you don’t like me.” I never quite understood how a person could claim they love the parent, but have absolutely no love for the child; however, that happens, but it doesn’t fly with me.
My son is an integral part of me. I carried him for nine months, we share the same DNA, the same features, and a lot of the same quirks. In many ways, we are one—like mother, like son. So, if a person rejects him, in my mind, they are rejecting me. One can’t truly love and value me, if they dismiss him as nobody. No. That is unacceptable.
And, this logic isn’t only unacceptable to me (and note, it should be so for every parent), but it is also unacceptable to God, where it concerns His Son, Jesus Christ.
Many people lay claim to the title Christian and claim to be in a relationship with God; yet, these same people deny and reject His Son. “He’s not God,” they say. “He’s just a man who did ‘good works,’” others say. “I believe He was a prophet,” still others say, “but not God. There’s only one God, not two.” All of this, contrary to what those persons may think, constitutes rejection, as the Bible clearly tells us who Jesus is: He is the Son of God, and He is God incarnate, which means He is God (Immanuel). So if a person denies these truths about God’s Son, truths that are, as I’ve stated, clearly laid out for us in God’s Word, can that person say, in truth, that they love God? Can they believe, wholeheartedly, that they shall live with Him eternally? The answer to both questions should be no, but you will find that many who deny Christ will give you a resounding yes to both of those questions.
Nevertheless, sisters, no one can deny Christ, the Creator and Savior of the whole world, and be in right standing with His Father. That’s just not so. The truth of the matter is, if a person doesn’t like and accept God’s Son, they don’t like and accept God (John 5:22-23).
I understand that many of you reading this submit to Christ as Lord and Savior and do not deny His deity…and that is great. However, this matter is still important as sometimes, although we believe, we place ourselves in relationships and friendships with those who do not (truly) believe. And sisters, that is a problem. God tells us, in 2 Corinthians 6:14, “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?” Verse 15 (NIV) goes on to say, “What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?” The answer to each of these questions is: Nothing!
Sisters, it is not okay to be in relationships with those who don’t believe in the Father and His Son. You may feel that you can change them, or think that if they’re around you long enough they’ll want to change on their own, but please understand that those thoughts are out of alignment with God’s Word. And if we claim to follow and love Him, we must obey His Word (cf. John 14:15, 21, 23-24), no ifs, ands, or buts.
With that being said, it is my prayer that if this blog found you in a wrong relationship, of any kind, you have now been moved to let it go. I pray that your love for God will supersede any love you may feel for your unbelieving significant other (or friend), causing you to come out from them and be separate. In doing so, you’ll avoid the difficult, and potentially dangerous, consequences that surely lie up ahead of those who disobey God’s words (remember Solomon’s story?).
P.S. Understand that it is okay to minister to unbelievers, but it is not okay to make them your significant other, or to intertwine yourself in “bestie-like” relationships with them.